gonna cosplay a yugioh character someday if it kills me.
Best husband award goes to …. Chrom. //insert confetti here
These two as siblings is pretty much the best thing ever. Parent obsession extremes.
A. If you could get away with one murder in your lifetime without any legal, social, or emotional repercussions, would you kill someone?
UGH IT’S TEMPTING. But I’d probably be killed in my attempt. I dream about killing a lot of different sentient beings, humans, and creatures alike and it’s seemed natural. The animal survival side of me is like yo do it because you can’t win unless you fight.
D. Would you rather know everything the universe has to offer but in exchange lose all emotions or remain the way you are now?
I would rather remain the same. I’m not me without emotions, am I?
M. If you could have the ability to manipulate matter or energy, which would you choose?
Matter because that’s essentially alchemy isn’t it? Yes.
S. Would you rather be the only person in the world that can read minds or have everyone else in the world be able to read minds except for your own?
I would read minds on my own. I’d never tell anyone. I would learn a lot and also discard a lot too. It would be awesome. Although I’d rather not learn a few things. Hm. On second thought, no. It would be scary though to be the only unreadable mind. People would be like all telekinetic with each other and I’d have to be the ONLY ONE ACTUALLY TALKING. STRESSFUL. IN A WORLD LIKE THAT WOULDN’T WE LIKE STOP USING OUR VOCAL CORDS?
X. You can eliminate one of your five senses to substantially strengthen the others, which one and would you do it?
I would choose smell. I would be able to eat more things without cringing at the SMELL OF THEM and I would be more comfortable with lots of things. I could never give up touch, or sight or hearing. So. Also I do like to taste things even though it’s connected to smell. Oh well. I still enjoy food a little.
Y. Do looks mean anything to you? Don’t lie, could you fall in love with someone you thought was ugly?
When I was a kid, I fell in love with the kid everyone thought was ugly. He was cute to me because he was my friend. Even after hitting puberty, people still don’t find him attractive but he’s basically got the body of a god? I can do it. I have a hard time finding people ugly I guess. And so what if they are? You can’t choose to fall in love with someone and looks don’t last.
The dash has spoken.
-Oh the weather outside is weather
But the fire is so fire
Sense we’ve got no place to place
Let it snow, let it snow, let it snow-
my friend came back from the UK today this is the only picture he took
oh my god panic changes their genre every album because they swore to shake it up
And we swore to listen.
Corgi Compilation - You are welcome
STOP KILLING ME WITH CUTENESS. ASDFGHJKL
Ever feel like you’re faking it, in spite of your successes, and that you’re on the verge of being outed as a phony, undeserving of praise, promotion or recognition? Sounds like you might be suffering from a case of Impostor Syndrome. Here’s why you should ignore that voice of doubt inside your head.
To many people, actress Emma Watson has it all. Talent, beauty, brains, and major acting roles at a young age. Yet Emma – like many people, be they in the world of acting, academia, health or sport – has admitted to feeling like a fraud despite her success.
In an interview with Rookie magazine, Watson said: “It’s almost like the better I do, the more my feeling of inadequacy actually increases, because I’m just going, ‘Any moment, someone’s going to find out I’m a total fraud, and that I don’t deserve any of what I’ve achieved’.”
This is an example of an interesting phenomenon called imposter syndrome – where people are seen as successful by outside external measures but internally they feel themselves to be frauds, undeserving of their success and in danger at any moment of being exposed.
Have you ever had the feeling that you’re in over your head? That you’ve had many successes but somehow you feel you don’t deserve them? There’s been some mistake. You were just lucky that time, the right questions came up in the exam or the interview. And despite all evidence to the contrary, that nagging feeling persists that, at any moment, someone will tap you on the shoulder and say: “You shouldn’t be here.”
Most of us have these feelings from time to time. They are called imposter feelings: feeling that you have misrepresented yourself despite all objective evidence to the contrary. A 1985 article in Time suggested that up to 70% of people will have imposter feelings at some time. It’s normal, and usually, with a bit of perspective and time, people let them pass.
However, for some people the imposter feelings don’t pass and an entire syndrome develops where the person believes they truly are an imposter. They go on to develop behaviours and thinking patterns based on this belief.
The phenomenon was originally described in 1978 by Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes, two researchers at Georgia State University in the US, based on their work with groups of high achieving women.
Much of the early literature suggested it applied mainly to women but since then, there have been studies showing that many men are also affected. One study suggested that while women worked and competed harder to prove themselves when anxiety was high, men tended to avoid situations where weaknesses could be exposed.
And the imposter syndrome is most obvious in situations where people are measured or evaluated in some way. So it is very common in education systems where people are regularly tested, graded and often ranked. It’s also common in competitive sport, or when you stand up to give a presentation, when you apply for a new job and in many creative fields. At these moments you start to worry that everybody will find out your little secret.
It’s a secret
One of the characteristics of the imposter syndrome is that you can never admit it. Because, of course, if you put your hand up and say “I feel like a fraud”, then there’s the possibility that someone will say “ah yes, we were wondering about that, could you please leave now.” So it’s safer to say nothing. But the doubts remain. Even if others are suffering too.
A second characteristic is that the imposter syndrome is impervious to evidence. The person has objective evidence that they are not a fraud. They have passed exams, have certificates, achieved sales targets, made a good presentation. Despite this evidence, the feeling lingers. And people play tricky mind games to discount or ignore the evidence. It was just luck, it was easy, someone helped. The next time will be harder. I fooled them – they just haven’t found me out yet.
For some people, the more successful they become, the worse the imposter syndrome is. After all, there’s more to be exposed now. All that happens is that expectations are raised even higher.
Look at it objectively
So what can you do? Well, you need to force yourself to look at the evidence objectively. One of the great contributions of psychology is to help people realise that feelings are not facts. You can feel like an imposter but that doesn’t make you one. Is it likely that you have fooled everyone? Did you tell lies at the interview? Was it just luck or did you actually work hard on that report?
There’s no simple answer to treating the syndrome but looking at the evidence using CBT and self-awareness can help, as can mindfulness. Learn not to fear success and enjoy it, even if this is easier said than done. Finding a way to channel pressure. This may not rid you of imposter syndrome but it will certainly help you to manage it.
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It’s getting down to crunch time for a lot of you. Remember to acknowledge your successes, even when they’re small.